Navigation Links
Partners of Alcoholics May Need to Seek help

People whose spouse or partner spends increasingly more time in a pub are often tormented by the question: Is he or she an alcoholic? //

It's a real issue for many people, men and women alike. They live with alcohol as a third party in their relationship and are often completely overburdened by it. They feel the need to pull their partners away from their addiction and at the same time hide it from their mutual surroundings, and that can put a great deal of strain on the relationship.

When this agonising concern for a partner or other relative is finally expressed, it's usually quite legitimate, said Hartmut Grosse of an Essen, Germany-based Al-Anon group that focuses on family. Many would prefer to ignore alarm signals for as long as possible.

'When the suspicion finally emerges, the signs usually are so obvious that an alcohol problem, if not addiction, already exists,' said Grosse.

In such situations it's important to raise suspicions as quickly as possible and as often as possible.

'Every delay in spelling out scepticism about someone's behaviour smooth the path toward dependence on alcohol and in serious cases extends the addiction,' said Christa Merfert-Diete of the German centre for addiction questions in Hamm.

When there's no longer any doubt that there is a problem, relatives can't do much to help - but they can do many things wrong.

'Alcoholism is an illness for which there is no cure and it can only be stopped through abstinence, and that can occur only if the alcoholic has the will to do it,' said Grosse.

Relatives can provide details about self-help groups or addiction counsellors, said Marita Voelker-Albers of the German centre for health education in Cologne.

'You have to make this clear: 'I am ready to support you,'' said Merfert-Diete. But it's just as important from the beginning not to leave any doubt that the support has limits. Experts say this is where many people fall into a trap: they try with all their might to get their loved-one to stop drinking. The attempt nearly always runs aground.

'It can be a serious mistake to help an alcoholic with a problem caused solely by his drinking,' said Merfert-Diete. Someone who calls his or her drunken partner's office to lie about why he or she is absent cannot hope that in the future he will easily return to pulling his own weight. Many people do such things on behalf of their alcoholic partners, stretching their resilience beyond its limits and further enabling their partner's alcoholism.

Al-Anon is a possible place to turn to for assistance. The group helps the families and friends of alcoholics find themselves again, explained Grosse. Many relatives of alcoholics have forgotten how to think about their needs. And if there's no other way, they must leave their partner. At the same time they must consciously acknowledge that they are not guilty of causing their partner's addiction.

'For an alcoholic, it's always someone else's fault,' said Grosse.

Despite all the necessary consequences and all feelings of helplessness, relatives should not give up hope.

'Week in, week out people meet in self-help groups that have successfully fought together against alcohol,' said Merfert-Diete. And one thing that's cleared, according to the centre for health education, an alcoholic is not a bad, weak-willed person. He is simply addicted.

Source-IANS
'"/>




Related medicine news :

1. Changing Partners may put Expectant Mothers at Risk
2. British Healthcare Mission Explores Partnership Possibilities With Indian Healthcare Sector
3. Partnership Between Diabetes India And Elsevier Announced
4. Betterment Of Health In Case Of Gay And Lesbian Civil Partnerships
5. Private Public Partnership To Tackle TB, In Karnataka
6. Courting HIV through Marriage or Partnership
7. Jealousy In Men Peaks When Partners Are Most Fertile
8. War Trauma Not Passed On To Partners And Children, Study
9. SRM Inst Signs Mou With Partners Health Care
10. A Healthy Partnership in the Pilbara
11. Usage Of A Condom By A Teenager Varies With Their Perception Of Partners
Post Your Comments:
*Name:
*Comment:
*Email:


(Date:5/24/2016)... ... May 24, 2016 , ... Physical therapy ... focuses on repairing the musculoskeletal and neuromuscular systems of the human body without ... NYDNRehab began providing treatments for physical therapy in New York, including dynamic ...
(Date:5/24/2016)... , ... May 24, 2016 , ... ... choose the perfect data logger for each job, ensuring the best suited solution ... calibrations of MadgeTech data loggers at their lab in Istanbul. , Metroloji Okulu ...
(Date:5/24/2016)... , ... May 24, 2016 , ... ... freezing, today announced the official relaunch of its community and education hub for ... eggs. Eggsurance's mission is to create a safe and welcoming place for women ...
(Date:5/24/2016)... (PRWEB) , ... May 24, 2016 , ... ... advancing the science and clinical practice of radiosurgery, is recognizing five medical residents ... radiosurgery (SRS) and stereotactic body radiotherapy (SBRT). The awards will be presented at ...
(Date:5/24/2016)... ... May 24, 2016 , ... The number of health insurance ... 10% over last year, according to data in the forthcoming AIS’s Directory of ... stable, with a slight decrease in risk-based groups and a slight increase in ...
Breaking Medicine News(10 mins):
(Date:5/23/2016)... 23, 2016 Diplomat Pharmacy, Inc. (NYSE: DPLO) announced ... Internship programs. The hands-on learning experience is a 12-week ... paid Fellowship and Internship programs ... Fellows and interns are provided optional housing free of ... at the Riverfront Residence Hall to foster communication ...
(Date:5/23/2016)... According to market research ... and Demand Forecast to 2022 - Industry Insights ... (Drug Discovery and Development, Proteomics, Clinical Testing, Environment ... and Biotechnology, Academic and Research Institute, Hospitals and ... mass spectrometry market was valued at ...
(Date:5/23/2016)... The World Health Organization (WHO) expanded the Intended Use of ... 13 years, and above. Effective immediately, the PrePex device, manufactured ... males in the 14 priority countries in Southern and ... circumcision device to receive WHO Prequalification on 31 May 2013. ... " The expanded use of PrePex for younger ...
Breaking Medicine Technology: