Navigation Links
How to help when cancer shows up – Cancer Hope Network shares five tips for showing support when a loved one is diagnosed
Date:8/31/2020

Just found out your dear friend has cancer?

It’s hard to hear your doctor say the words “You have cancer.” It’s heartbreaking when your friend or family member shares their diagnosis. Once the shock wears off, the questions and fears can be overwhelming.

How should I respond? What if I say the wrong thing? What are the best ways to help? Words are failing me. I’m scared. I want to DO something.

We’ve talked to experts – the cancer survivors and caregivers who serve as CHN Support Volunteers – and have five practical ways to help.

*Choose your words carefully. Or just be.*
It sounds simple. But in their rush to find common ground, people say some pretty awful things. “My aunt/cousin/colleague’s friend died from that!” “Did you smoke?” “Have you tried (insert alternative therapy here)?”

Think first. Don’t blurt out the first thing that comes to mind. There’s still a chance you’ll say something you wish you could take back – but it’s much less likely.

It’s ok to talk about topics other than cancer. “You don’t need to say ‘I’m sure it’s gonna be ok,’” suggests two-time survivor Dale. “You don’t know that. Keeping the conversation as normal as possible was so meaningful.”

Still not sure what to say? Saying nothing is ok too. Sometimes, there aren’t right words. But your presence – physically or digitally – can make all the difference.

*Don’t ask, do.*
Grabbing your keys (and a mask!) can help too. Survivor Ed recalls how meaningful it was to have his brother-in-law driving him to treatment. Support Volunteer Mona’s friends took her dancing after her first chemo. “My friends were there to encourage me and give me strength when I was weak. I realized it’s true that you never know what strangers will become your friends and family.”

Asking for help is difficult. Offering help removes that burden from the patient we love. Anything that moves beyond “let me know if you need anything” is progress. Support Volunteer Kathy remembers small, everyday gifts of time and help. “Sometimes, those ordinary moments are the best moments. The little things mean so much more than the big.”

*Check in. Consistently.*
Time and again, survivors remember the loneliness and isolation cancer brought. “I found out who my friends are. And who they weren’t,” said long-term cervical survivor Ellen. “Some people shut down and turned away. I know cancer scares a lot of people. You don’t know what to say. I don’t myself. But people who were just there made a huge difference. The smallest kindnesses mean something.”

Life’s busy. Checking in matters, but it doesn’t have to be dramatic. Survivor after survivor mentioned silly emails, funny memes and the quick call to say hello.

If life keeps getting in the way, setting a reminder or alarm is a good way to build the consistency you want to give and that your loved one so desperately needs.

*Think practical. Think small.*
Small portions make a big difference. Jenn recalls friends who brought a meal each week, “it was often enough that we could eat for a couple days. It wasn’t too much – and it was spaced out.” For caregiver Marlys, small, freezer-ready dishes made life while her husband was in hospice care more manageable.

If cooking’s not for you, gifts like pajamas, hats or (audio!) books are loving that’s a simple click away. Cleaning services make life easier. This really is one of those times that the thought counts.

*Connect*
Help isn’t just for patients. For caregivers thrust into a world of appointments and pickups and newfound duties while balancing their own responsibilities, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. It’s also easy to feel guilty about being overwhelmed when you feel you “should” be focused on your loved one who “has it worse.”

“You have to call and get help. I’d call my daughter to come stay with him for a few hours. You need to have someone you can call on so you can take breaks. I couldn’t let myself get worn down – my oncologist said I had to listen to my body – no matter if it’s 80 degrees out and you should be out planting flowers, if you’re tired, lay down and take a nap. You can’t do it by yourself. You’re a person, you’re a human and you cannot.” ~Anne, survivor, caregiver

Most of all, remember that you and your friend are not alone. This journey is new for you, but you’re not the first to travel this road.

Speaking with someone who has faced a similar experience can provide comfort and hope. It can also provide more practical solutions and tips. Request a caregiver/friend match for yourself – or encourage your friend to request a free and confidential match with a trained survivor Support Volunteer.

“Doctors can only go so far – they’ll feed you the information that’s needed,” says esophageal survivor Joe. “Cancer Hope Network has volunteers who have gone through the gauntlet and we’re able to talk to people on the same level and go through what’s about to happen to them.”

Sarah Miretti Cassidy is the Director of External Affairs for Cancer Hope Network. Contact her at 908.879.4039 ex 20 or scassidy (at) cancerhopenetwork.org.

Read the full story at https://www.prweb.com/releases/how_to_help_when_cancer_shows_up_cancer_hope_network_shares_five_tips_for_showing_support_when_a_loved_one_is_diagnosed/prweb17361807.htm.


'/>"/>
Source: PRWeb
Copyright©2020 Vocus, Inc.
All rights reserved


Related medicine news :

1. Actuate Therapeutics Announces Initiation Of Phase 2 Clinical Study In Pancreatic Cancer
2. New Evidence Linking Vaping to Oral Cancer and Gum Disease Highlights Importance of Dental Hygiene Routines, says Premier Care Dental Group
3. Exploring Changes of Myeloid Cells with Chromogenic Multiplex IHC in Advanced Liver Cancer, Upcoming Webinar Hosted by Xtalks
4. Society for Immunotherapy of Cancer to Host Fundamental Two-Day Workshop Focused on Cytokines in Cancer Immunotherapy
5. Chronic Stress Can Impact Response to Radiation Therapy for Cancer, Roswell Park Study Suggests
6. UICC Selects ASCP to Host Prestigious 2021 World Cancer Leaders’ Summit in Boston, MA, October 2021
7. Small Molecule Inhibitor of MYC as a Cancer Therapeutic from the NIH (National Institutes of Health)
8. Crowdfunded Wine-making Supports Prostate Cancer Research – Drinking Charitably
9. Oral Cancer Prevention and Early Detection
10. Society for Immunotherapy of Cancer to Host Unique 2-Day Workshop Focused on Interrogating the Tumor-Specific Surfaceome for Immune Targeting
11. Sunset World Group Increases Its Support to Breast Cancer Survivors
Post Your Comments:
*Name:
*Comment:
*Email:
(Date:8/31/2020)... ... ... Want to get moving, break up your routine, and make a difference right ... its fourth annual STEPtember campaign in the United States to raise funds and awareness ... at this moment — encouraging people to move in the ways that work for ...
(Date:8/31/2020)... ... , ... The pandemic and topsy-turvy economic outlook continues to put financial strain on many of ... trim the fat from our monthly expenses and put more into savings, if possible. , ... have a financial safety net in place in case something were to happen to you,” ...
(Date:8/31/2020)... ... August 31, 2020 , ... ... outcomes for patients with advanced heart failure, today announced that the company has ... amount of $555,358 from the National Heart, Lung, and Blood Institute of the ...
(Date:8/28/2020)... RANCH, Calif. (PRWEB) , ... August 28, 2020 ... ... cover a one-year subscription to a customized Lighthouse Health & Wellness mobile ... generous support of this project. Motorola Solutions Foundation awards grants each year to ...
(Date:8/28/2020)... ... 2020 , ... A July 27 article on ... an increased risk of developing severe COVID-19 symptoms. The article does not suggest ... same organ systems that the coronavirus attacks are already suffering from the adverse ...
Breaking Medicine News(10 mins):
(Date:8/31/2020)... PHOENIX (PRWEB) , ... August 31, 2020 , ... ... Mobile Sanitizing and Disinfecting - a broad-spectrum sanitization, disinfection and deodorization provider ... company will offer door-to-door sanitizing and disinfecting services for businesses and residents throughout ...
(Date:8/27/2020)... ... August 27, 2020 , ... InfoMC, a leading provider of ... their 2020 System and Organizational Controls (SOC) 1® Type 2 and SOC 2® ... assessment. These achievements reflect their long-standing commitment to privacy, security, and risk management, ...
(Date:8/27/2020)... , ... August 27, 2020 , ... Bridge To A ... Dr. Friedman is an adult and pediatric neuro-oncologist who serves on the Board of ... an educator at Duke University Medical School. , Internationally recognized, Dr. Friedman is a ...
Breaking Medicine Technology: