Tucson, AZ (PRWEB) July 26, 2013
Divorced couples can find common ground renowned radio host and family counselor Dr. Randy Carlson says.
Getting along with a former spouse ranks as the most difficult part of divorce, Carlson says. But it’s vitally important to harmonize shared priorities and commitments.
“You owe that to yourself to your children, if you have them,” says Dr. Carlson, president of Family Life Communications and founder of the Intentional Living Center based in Tucson, Ariz. “It’s no surprise that research shows that children from divorced couples fare better when their parents make getting along a priority.”
Dr. Carlson points out a former spouse might want not to reconcile.
“But that’s not an excuse to abandon your efforts,” Dr. Carlson says. “Determine that you will move forward toward reconciliation, trusting God for wisdom and strength.”
Dr. Carlson lists four keys for former spouses to work out differences: 1. Redefining their relationship, 2. Staying away from trigger events or words, 3. Define goals, 4. Pray for the attitude of Christ.
“You’re no longer married lovers,” Dr. Carlson says, explaining why former couples should redefine their relationship. “You’re adults with a shared responsibility. Putting the past behind you will be difficult, but you must do the best you can together to recognize how your relationship has changed and adjust how you interact accordingly.”
Bringing up the past can trigger arguments, Dr. Carlson says.
“You need to establish a completely different level of communication with a brand new set of dynamics. Sometimes saying little or nothing at all may be the be
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