NEWPORT BEACH, Calif., May 29 /PRNewswire/ -- Finding the perfect gift for Dad is difficult any year, but for 2009 Father's Day, the challenge is daunting. Many fathers are struggling with fears of what the current economy will mean for them and the survival of their family. Others are attached to the security of the old days, when they worked hard, kept their jobs, and retired with their nest egg. Perhaps this year, we can give our fathers freedom from both their fears and attachments with three helpful tips:
1. Live and enjoy today.
2. Celebrate all the blessings you have now.
3. Stop fearing what might happen or desiring things to be different.
Enjoying this day, living in the present moment, and celebrating what is, are some of the key points Dr. Robert Puff, Newport Beach psychologist and international business consultant, teaches people in his free e-book/podcast entitled "Living a Peaceful Life." "What's causing all our fathers' mental suffering," says Dr. Puff, "is their worries about what might happen or how things should be."
Many of our father's have lost their jobs, others have seen their retirement nest egg crack, but this doesn't mean that our dads have to suffer. Suffering ends when a person learns how to enjoy what they do have, like a loving spouse or child, their health, or the beautiful grandchildren rushing to greet them.
This doesn't mean a denial of the facts, but it does mean being present with all the blessings that they still have. In "Living a Peaceful Life," Dr. Puff shares a story of how his father-in-law, Bill, who was diagnosed with cancer a few months after retiring, struggled for four years before dying. But during this time, Bill described these years as the most wonderful time of his life, because he surrounded himself with his wife, children, grandchildren, brother, sisters, and nephews. Though there was much physical pain, Bill experienced great joy and wouldn't have traded the last four years of his life for anything.
This Father's Day, perhaps the greatest gift we can give our own fathers, and other fathers that we know, is to help them replace their need for security and certainty with savoring and delighting in all they have now. We can help them do this by being aware of their struggle, and letting them know that it is who they are, not what they have achieved, that matters most to us, and to their children.
Dr. Robert Puff has given over a thousand media interviews, including magazines, online magazines, TV and radio talk shows. He can be reached at 714-337-4889 or DrPuff@DoctorPuff.com. Dr. Puff's writings are all free as e-books and unabridged audio recordings on his web site. You may read or listen to selections on how to handle fear, manage anger, reduce stress, and more. Go to http://www.doctorpuff.com/
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